I will never forget the day that my husband and I moved into our first house together. It was fun, exciting and every bit of stressful. I was giddy about unpacking and making our new home a home. But when it came to the decorating, some truths came out that all couples should know about if they are contemplating moving in together or even redecorating together.
Here’s the thing. My husband and I are a match made in heaven. We work
really incredibly well together. I am the visionary and he makes all my decorating dreams come true. But when it came to getting things on the walls and finding the perfect spot for furniture and decor in our new home we didn’t always see eye to eye. If you know me, you know I like every little detail planned out and that means that if that watercolor painting doesn’t have a place on the wall in my mind yet, it will NOT be hung until it does. Well, my husband was the complete opposite. Because he is a doer, he had a goal of getting everything unpacked and in its place all in one weekend. Yep, you read that right…one weekend. Recipe for disaster.
Now we can’t look past the whole yours, mine and now ours conversation either. Combining household items, decor and everything else in between is just plain awkward. You know why? Because styles and preferences are going to be different. How do you tell your significant other that they are going to have to get rid of their dishes, bedding and man cave decor because it’s just not going with your vibe? (uhhmmhhmmm…) Yea…talk about a sensitive subject. I once had a huge argument with an old roommate where tears were shed over a paper towel holder…yes. People get territorial over their belongings so its important to tread lightly around this subject.
Since moving in together almost 3 years ago I’ve heard of these same relationship battles happening with my friends and coworkers. Everyone crosses this bridge eventually and it doesn’t have to cause a strain on your relationship, it really can be a smooth process by following a few simple tips. That way both you and your significant other are happy!
Here are some tips to get started decorating as a team!
Create a vision board // Start a shared board on Pinterest with your significant other to gather inspiration for each room of our home – together. This will allow you have an open dialogue about what vibe you are looking to bring to life in each room that includes textures, styles, decor and colors. Make a fun activity for the both of you one night after dinner. Who can resist a good Pinterest find?
Now talk about it // Take a hard look at what your vision boards include. Pick out the similarities of your pins vs. your significant other’s pins so that you can agree on something. Open up the conversation to learn what styles each of you enjoy in order to find a common ground. Then make sure each of you are on the same page in regards to how you want each room to make you feel. That could be relaxed, calm, energized, fresh, clean, etc. This should help narrow in the focus for those boards and get you moving in the right direction.
For the old stuff // One of the biggest pain points of moving into a new home is accepting that not all of our previous pieces have a spot at the new place. While that painting looked amazing above the mantel in our apartment, it didn’t quite make the cut this time. Make it a point to decide together where upgrades are needed and sell your old stuff for a fresh, clean new look.
Don’t be afraid of change and sacrifice. It will be a give and take. Stay calm and above all else love and respect each other. Sometimes, not getting your way can be a hard thing to swallow, but do everything you can to avoid power struggles during this time. At the end of the day a petty argument over where the watercolor painting will hang is not worth the headache.
Do you have other tips or stories to tell about when you decorated your first house together? I’d love to hear them in the comments below!