Hey You! (yea, you 20-something!)
Can we get real with each other today? I want to talk about happiness and why it doesn’t always seem to show through in our lives each and every day.
Have you ever gotten stuck behind one of those loud, gross, super slow dump trucks when you are trying to get somewhere fast? Um, annoying, right? It’s even more annoying when everyone behind you is slipping past the truck so fast you don’t even have a chance to squeeze in line with them. Ugh.
Sometimes I feel like life can be just like being behind the slowest dump truck ever. We are all trying to reach certain goals or life milestones and it never fails, something gets in our way or steals our happiness. This slows us down and its just plain frustrating. That might look like a crappy job or maybe a bad habit.
Have you ever wondered if that bump in the road was all in God’s grand plan? That it was supposed to be apart of the adventure? A teaching moment? A sign to actually slow down?
Let me reassure you are not alone in those moments of being stuck and feeling unhappy. We are all dealing with something, but you know what? There’s hope. God promises to pull us through to the end.
Over the last few weeks I’ve had my fair share of “blah” moments. Its normal to go through those seasons, but it’s also important to identify why you are walking down that path and how to work yourself out of the rut. So, I’ve done some soul searching to identify some ways to keep our spirits up in those times when we are in that weird unhappy, blah mood. (thank goodness, there’s hope) Here are 6 habits we can take on to be happier.
Set Realistic Goals // Don’t set goals that aren’t attainable. I’m a very goal-oreitned person and when I set goals for myself that are too much for my stage in life, it leaves me feeling like a failure and unaccomplished. Start with smaller goals that you know are achievable and work your way up to larger ones. My favorite habit for goal setting is making a simple to-do list each week or month. It helps keep me focused and gives me a sense of accomplishment when I check off those little boxes.
Forget The Arrival // You know those times when you say…”if I could only get a raise I’d be happy” or “if I only had that job I’d make it”…that’s called the “arrival fallacy”. It’s when we believe that if we can reach or obtain a certain something we’d be happy. In all reality, that’s false. It might make you happy in the moment, but it vanishes and you will inevidably move on to other things. This way of life is not sustainable, we have to live more in the moment and be grateful for what we have.
Live In The Moment // This is a hard one for me. I’m a future dreamer, getting stuck in that arrival fallacy way of life. Living in the moment is something a lot of us take for granted. I see this most when I look back on times when I’m freaking out about something and later realize that it was nothing at all. The key here is to try and find joy where you are in life, no matter what season. Take time to give gratitude. I am even challenging myself to start making weekly gratitude lists so that I can seek out joy and remind myself that everything is ok week after week.
Know Yourself // People that are confident in themselves know their strengths and weaknesses. They’ve embraced their flaws and are not worried about what other people think of them. Someone once said, “always strive to be the best version of yourself, because no one else can be you.” I’ve always kept that near to my heart and it rings true in so many scenarios. Keep your eyes on yourself and what God has planned for your life, not what others think you should be doing.
Invest in Others // I’ve always been one of those in-the-shell type of people. I’m quiet, but polite. I don’t often come out of my shell to explore and invest in other people outside of my close friends. My challenge to you and to myself is to step out of your comfort zone and meet new people. Listen to their stories. You never know, you might meet a new friend or learn something new about yourself.
Give Back // Sharing your heart through giving is one of the quickest and easiest ways to bring happiness into your life. I bet there is some stat out there that proves when we bring happiness to others, we in turn are happier. Try it!
You are always steps away from more happiness. It’s all about peeling away the layers society has put on us and staying true to ourselves. Follow your heart and everything else will fall into place …a happy place. 🙂
Do you have other ways of finding happiness for yourself? Maybe a personal day every month to find your center, a hobby or sport that gets you in your groove? I’d love to hear about it! Comment below.